Glass abodes

Lines from a beautiful song by John Legend:

Cause everybody knows that
nobody really knows
how to make it work
or how to ease the hurt...
cause everybody knows
but nobody really knows.

There's a cliche: Don't throw stones if you live in a glass house.

When it comes to the world of relationships, we all live in glass houses. Unfortunately, it seems like most of us also throw stones.

Just like most things in life, we're all at different stages when it comes to relationships and we have all had different experiences. I recently told a friend that we're all just wild, running around and making mistakes until God decides to throw our soul mate into the mix. Some of us have had great relationships, others have had terrible ones, others haven't had any. Some of us have cheated, others have been cheated on. Some of us have broken hearts, others have gotten their hearts broken. Some of us have slept around, others are waiting to have sex until they are married, others are not sleeping around by default (if you know me, you know what this phrase means.) We lie, deceive, send mixed signals, flirt harmlessly or maybe not so harmlessly, open our hearts to people we know we shouldn't, and close our hearts to people we know we should open up to. We gossip, keep secrets, cry, yell, go running back to old lovers, send drunken late night texts, say things that our mothers would not be proud of, DO things our mothers might not be proud of, hope and pray for changes, doubt ourselves, casually hook up, get shaken to the core by love, and do it all again. We. Are. Human.

So, what's the point?

Just that: WE ARE HUMAN.

We all experience the same emotions in the roller coaster of relationships and love, no matter how extreme or subtle they may be. And, although a situation may be perfectly black and white from the outside, we do have to keep in mind that behind that black and white surface, there's a rainbow of human emotions. So it may be okay to give advice to a friend who really needs it, but it's not okay to judge. Or worse, it's not okay to try and draw parallels between any situation you've had and the situation of a friend because you're both different people.

Again, I draw inspiration from pretty much anywhere that I can find it so of course, this isn't unprompted. It's been a very interesting week from many different angles in terms of my subject matter and this was the best way to sum it up. I've talked to a lot of different friends about so many different situations so this is kind of paying homage to everyone including myself, I guess, if you were to look at my life experiences.

Cause everybody knows
but nobody really knows.

Love freely,
tY