stereoTYPES

Finding a compatible mate is like finding the perfect pair of jeans.

We all have types of jeans that we prefer wearing over others--skinny, high-waisted, low-rise, whatever. And, typically when we shop for jeans, we gravitate toward the type of jeans we like. I personally am a fan of skinnys. But, my favorite pair of jeans, the ones that hug my booty just right and can be worn when I want to bum out or when I want to dress up, are a simple pair of sevens I've had for years.

However, if I exclusively wore skinny jeans, I would've never discovered the beauty of these sevens.

So, apply "jeans theory" to people.

Many times, we hear guys and girls alike complain, "yeah, they're cool, they're just not my type." And, with those eight words, they write a person off because of a superficial list of prerequisites when really, that person who they just claimed wasn't their type could've been their soul mate.

What is a type, anyway? I presume it has to do with a person's appearance because people can usually qualify from a first glance whether someone is their type or not. However, all this does is limit us. If someone has the attached body part that you desire, give them a shot. Forget these assumptions about the fact that only a guy in tight jeans with a rocker tee or a girl with long brown hair is the one for you. My experience has been that the guys I've connected with most are the ones who defied my "type" and with that, I stopped having a type.

And, if you have a "personality type" that you look for, most definitely cut that out now. It's FINE to know what personality is compatible with yours but you won't really know if a person's personality works with yours UNTIL you give them a chance. If you write them off because of something you heard or one thing they did, again, you're only cheating yourself. If you want to spend the next 50 years of your life looking for the nonexistent clone of your ideal mate, then, by all means, have a "personality type."

Or maybe mates are like ice cream. You can try different flavors but you'll never get enough. And, maybe you've been eating strawberry for years but then you stumble upon mint chocolate chip and realize what you've been missing.

Love freely,
tY