Bad boys, bad boys, what you gonna do?

So, askmen.com just became my new best friend.
http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith_100/126_dating_advice.html



According to askmen.com, a bad boy "exudes untamed masculinity, independence and confidence. To women, these traits -- especially confidence -- are an aphrodisiac. The problem is, in the hands of the Bad Boy, confidence becomes selfish arrogance. But women are responding to guys like this on a purely elemental, emotional level."


If you've never dated a bad boy, you would probably be lying if you said you were never a) attracted to one and/or b) fooled around with one.


The bad boy image is easily recognizable...askmen.com put it best when they said, "untamed masculinity, independence, and confidence.' Untamed...wow, I just love that word. It's the perfect way to describe it. Masculinity, independence, and confidence are traits women desire in men but when there's no ceiling to these characteristics, there's a glaring problem.


The bad boy comes in many forms...musicians, jocks, and Wall Street execs just to name a few of the stereotypical ones. Unfortunately, men aren't the only ones who can't think with both parts of their body at the same time. Women, too, can recognize these personality flaws but soon become puddy in the hands of a bad boy. However, it's not purely physical for women; in fact, it's probably more emotional for women. Why?


WOMEN WANT TO BE THE GIRL WHO CHANGES THE GUY.

There may be euphemisms for this (i.e "bring out the best in him") but essentially, women, too, have egos. And, while this may not necessarily be an issues of egos, when a guy changes for a woman or because of a certain woman, it's a sign of undying affection through sacrifice. And, of course, every person desires that undying affection.

Unfortunately, what usually ends up happening is that the women puts in an ungodly amount of time and effort only for the man to maintain his bad boy ways. Here's the key: people change because they want to change. And, permanent change is usually the result of self-reflection. Yes, there are other people who are important to us who make us want to change. But, we have to want to change for ourselves, not for the approval of someone else. For a "bad boy" to find that place where HE wants to be confident yet vulnerable, masculine yet sensitive, and independent yet open-minded is difficult and at times, nearly impossible.

Messing around with a "bad boy" can be very tempting and incredibly sexy. But, before you go there, make sure you're up for a purely good time that will result in absolutely nothing. And, it is my knowledge, that woman can talk that game but they usually can't play it.

Love freely,

tY