Who's Wedding is it Anyway? Say Yes to the Dress. I Propose. Platinum Weddings. Bridezillas.
If you haven't notice, our culture is obsessed with marriage.
No, I take that back, our culture is obsessed with weddings. Of course, weddings are the public announcement of marriage so obviously the two go hand-in-hand.
Lately, the topic of marriage has come up in conversation with many of my friends, guys and girls alike. Would you move across the country for your spouse? Am I wife material? When is the timing right? Is it okay to have a question mark on your future? Am I going to end up 50 yrs old with 10 cats?
Then, it dawns on me. Everyone I've been talking to is young...almost too young to be thinking about any of these things (and I, too, am a culprit when it comes to the mortal sin of asking some of these questions.) Why does society shove marriage down our throats so much?
If you believe monogamy is natural, great. If you don't, great. If you believe in marriage, great. If you think you can have a soul mate without marrying them, great. I'm not here to judge any of that because it's not my place. However, I can say that these people who produce wedding shows and unyieldingly feed the idea of happily ever after need to find something more productive to contribute to society. Because if that's the case, where are all of the divorce shows? I mean don't 50% of marriages end in divorce? Oh, yea that's what I thought.
Sure, I'm being a little cynical for the sake of argument. But, when I found myself seriously considering whether or not I was marriage material I had to cut the madness. There's something very important I said in my very first post: I'm 19 years old. It's OK that the thing at the forefront of my mind relationship-wise is absolutely nothing at all.
Use your youth as an excuse because it is a very valid one. And, one day, you're going to be 50 and regardless of whether your married with 10 children or single with 10 cats, being young and doing what you want and getting what YOU want out of life will no longer be valid. You'll either be considered a selfish spouse and/or parent or a desperate less hot version of Samantha Jones (or maybe you'll be just as hot, I'm not sure. You're reading this so something about you is sexy.)
Maybe marriage is the ultimate goal, but society and mass media need to give it a rest. And, even if it is the ultimate goal, is it fair for it to overshadow our other goals of wanting to travel to exotic places or work in big cities?
Who's Wedding is it anyway? Not ours, so we really don't care.
Love freely,
tY
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