Roses are red
violets are blue
but are flowers enough
to say sorry to you?
I pull inspiration for my posts from pretty much anything ranging from my short list of life experiences to couples I see during the day to random thoughts spurred by daydreams in the middle of class. So after I asked a guy with red roses in his hand today who he was trying impress and he replied "not impress, apologize to," I secretly thanked him for inspiring today's post.
If you've ever been in a relationship, you know there will come a time when no matter how stubborn of a person you are, you will have to set your pride aside and apologize. It's one of the hardest things in the world to do because as humans, we like to believe that we are good and usually right. Admitting our faults, especially to someone who often times admires us, is nearly impossible. Nonetheless, we will call someone out of their name, hang up the phone, instigate an argument, or do something else that merits an apology.
Movies and other media teach us that when a guy apologizes with a bouquet of roses in hand, he REALLY means it. No matter what the offense, we are supposed to surrender and accept the apology because LOOK he bought flowers. Roses themselves are not merely flowers; they are a social construction of love. But, I digress.
Later on, I saw the same guy who inspired today's post without the flowers and with a smile on his face. Whatever his offense, he got off, scot free. My only hope is that he knows IF the flowers thing works, it only works for your first offense, buddy. Next time, roses probably won't do.
It's ludicrous to expect a bouquet of flowers to speak for you. Flowers can make a woman swoon if her boyfriend drops them off in the middle of the day unannounced. But, as far as an apology goes, the only time a woman should swoon is when the offender is sincere, genuine, and humble. The best apologies are the ones that a person ponders over for hours or even days and then looks you in the eyes and says two words: "I'm sorry." Heartfelt apologies are just that: heartfelt. Your heart knows when it's real.
So if you're a guy, don't fall for the flowers trick. If you can't apologize by yourself, don't apologize at all. And, if you're a girl, also don't fall for the flowers trick. Accept them (because I always encourage politeness) but tell him that a sincere apology without any ornaments is what you really want. And, whatever you do, DON'T swoon (OK, maybe swoon secretly but only for a nanosecond.)
Roses are red
violets are blue
but neither one of these things
will ever say sorry for you.
violets are blue
but are flowers enough
to say sorry to you?
I pull inspiration for my posts from pretty much anything ranging from my short list of life experiences to couples I see during the day to random thoughts spurred by daydreams in the middle of class. So after I asked a guy with red roses in his hand today who he was trying impress and he replied "not impress, apologize to," I secretly thanked him for inspiring today's post.
If you've ever been in a relationship, you know there will come a time when no matter how stubborn of a person you are, you will have to set your pride aside and apologize. It's one of the hardest things in the world to do because as humans, we like to believe that we are good and usually right. Admitting our faults, especially to someone who often times admires us, is nearly impossible. Nonetheless, we will call someone out of their name, hang up the phone, instigate an argument, or do something else that merits an apology.
Movies and other media teach us that when a guy apologizes with a bouquet of roses in hand, he REALLY means it. No matter what the offense, we are supposed to surrender and accept the apology because LOOK he bought flowers. Roses themselves are not merely flowers; they are a social construction of love. But, I digress.
Later on, I saw the same guy who inspired today's post without the flowers and with a smile on his face. Whatever his offense, he got off, scot free. My only hope is that he knows IF the flowers thing works, it only works for your first offense, buddy. Next time, roses probably won't do.
It's ludicrous to expect a bouquet of flowers to speak for you. Flowers can make a woman swoon if her boyfriend drops them off in the middle of the day unannounced. But, as far as an apology goes, the only time a woman should swoon is when the offender is sincere, genuine, and humble. The best apologies are the ones that a person ponders over for hours or even days and then looks you in the eyes and says two words: "I'm sorry." Heartfelt apologies are just that: heartfelt. Your heart knows when it's real.
So if you're a guy, don't fall for the flowers trick. If you can't apologize by yourself, don't apologize at all. And, if you're a girl, also don't fall for the flowers trick. Accept them (because I always encourage politeness) but tell him that a sincere apology without any ornaments is what you really want. And, whatever you do, DON'T swoon (OK, maybe swoon secretly but only for a nanosecond.)
Roses are red
violets are blue
but neither one of these things
will ever say sorry for you.
Love freely,
tY
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