You would think that after skipping my Spanish class this morning and getting an extra hour of sleep, I'd wake up refreshed and ready to start the day. But, I wasn't. I realized I was kind of in a mood. Now, this mood could be blamed on many things. It could be blamed on my disdain for school because it's my last semester and I don't think writing a paper analyzing how color is used in a visual is quite useful at this point. It could be blamed on the lack of sleep I got last night. Could be blamed on my messed up finances at the moment.
But...I don't think any of these things are the culprit.
Last night (well, this morning around 5am) while showering, I realized I've been single for about 8 months now. I have hit the 8 month funk.
For people who are in relationships, they usually say the first 6 months or so are the honeymoon period. Everything's great, you fall in love, and your life is cherries and sugar and all of that good stuff. I'd like to think it's the same for people who are single. Once you get over that "I hate him and want to key his car" hump, being single is fun. It's new. Exciting. But, just like those people in a relationship who hit a bump after 6 months or so, as a single person you, too, hit a bump and kind of sort of miss being in a relationship. At least if you're anything like me, you miss just bumming it with someone on a Friday night, texting them in the middle of the day saying hello, or waking up next to them (although I must admit I hate sharing my bed and I don't sleep well with others...wow, reason number 506 why I'm never going to get married.)
So, there's really only one of two options. For the people who hit the 8 month bump in relationships, they have to decide if they're going to stay together or split. Pretty simple. If you're single, you really don't have the option of going and just getting into a relationship (unless, of course, you're that desperate in which case you shouldn't be reading this blog because I don't write for desperate people.) So, you can either dwell on being single and whine about it or you can ride it out and continue to enjoy your life.
There's a line in one of my favorite movies, Hitch, when Eva Mendes turns to her friend and says, "You're not sick; you're single." Too often, we think of being single as some plague when it's the opposite. It's a chance to get to discover new things and people, enjoy only having to make choices for yourself, and meet some sexy characters and make some bad decisions with them along the way. So, do what you have to do to remind yourself that riding solo a la Jason Derulo isn't so bad after all. Maybe you're like me and realize at this point in your life, you should focus on the one person who's always going to be there for you: you.
Love freely,
tY
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