The V Card

Ha, you think I'm about to blog about sex, don't you?

Come on, you know this is free love. You know I don't do that.

No, today's million dollar word is vulnerability.

Dictionary.com defines vulnerable as:

1.
capable of or susceptible to being wounded or hurt, as by a weapon: a vulnerable part of the body.
2.
open to moral attack, criticism, temptation, etc.: an argument vulnerable to refutation; He is vulnerable to bribery.
3.
(of a place) open to assault; difficult to defend: a vulnerable bridge.

The definition that caught my eye was "capable of or suscepitble to being wounded or hurt"

I've never met anyone who said they liked being vulnerable. But, in the world of relationships (well, in general just in the world, but for the context of this blog, obviously I am talking about relationships) vulnerability is a necessary evil. Relationships don't work if a person can't incise someone's surface and making that cut requires the other person to "let their guard down" as the cliche says. But, like I said, I've never met anyone who likes doing it. People either just accept it or fear it.

Here's where the definitions come in. "Capable of or susceptible to being wounded or hurt." Most people don't usually hold their arm out waiting for someone to either admire it or slice it with a razor knife So, why is it we do the same thing with our heart?

The answer? We don't.

Well, we do.

But we don't have any control over it.

As much as some people spend years building emotional walls, aligning each brick with just the right amount of cement so nothing can demolish it, emotions are limitless. Love, real love, is limitless. These things don't understand or acknowledge boundaries or fear. So, when we reach that point, no matter how hard we try or what we want or don't want, we shed our layers freely, hoping for the best and sometimes not even anticipating the worst. Most times, we get hurt. And, well maybe one time you'll get married.

And, that, my friend, is why vulnerability is a female dog.

But, a necessary evil nonetheless.

Love freely,
tY