In a galaxy far, far away...

Distance makes the heart grow fonder.


Or does it?


I've never been in a long distance relationship, but that isn't saying much because I haven't been in that many relationships.

So, let's create a scenario. Your boyfriend is a year older than you and is getting ready to graduate. He's flying across the country to pursue his acting dreams and you're staying at blank university, on the other side of the country. Throw it long distance or call it quits?

Of course, there are a number of extenuating circumstances that I don't have time to list on this post that would affect such a decision. I mean, are you guys really in love or is it just one of those relationships that has just been "fun?" Are you both independent enough to survive the day without calling someone else baby an infinite number of times? These are things to consider, people.


I've always had a juxtaposed respect and disapproval if you will for people in long distance relationships. I know, how can you respect something and disapprove at the same time? I respect the bravery and faith people in long distance relationships have. I think, when done correctly, long distance relationships require a tremendous amount of patience and understanding that people in "normal" relationships do not necessarily have to have.


However, there are times when I don't know how possible long distance relationships are. (Notice I said "how possible," I didn't say the were impossible.) When you don't see someone you care about for a long time, usually the time you spend with them is carefree and happy because you value that time and you recognize how precious it is. But, if the only time spent with someone whom you are dating is always happy and carefree, is that a pseudo relationship? Great relationships have great debates. You don't truly know someone until you push their buttons which is an entirely different post but hey, it works here. How possible is it to cover all the facets of love, emotion, etc. in such short spurts of time?



I think the answer here is that there is no answer. Some people are built for it, most people are not. If you happen to be one of the few made for love that goes the distance, I salute you on such bravery, independence, and faith. And, well, for you normal relationship people, I hope you're still brave, independent, and faithful, too.




And, if this post made you feel uneasy, just watch Giuliana and Bill. I mean, they made a marriage go the distance. Yikes.




And, if you're single, well up and move to California. It's totally cool.




Love freely,
tY