Girl Talk

From my nineteen years of experience as a female, I've learned two words: girls talk.

They talk a lot.

I'm sure men talk a lot, too. Unfortunately, women are known for it.

Imagine this scenario (if you're a girl): Your guy/boyfriend/hookup/whatever he is/crush is getting on your nerves. Maybe he forgot to call. Maybe he's in a bad mood. Maybe he didn't remember your birthday. Either way, you're annoyed so you go to your girlfriend for advice and she tells you to play a "game" and ignore him or, on the other hand, confront him with your feelings (again, my experience in girl world tells me advice usually falls into one of these two categories...not always, but usually.) So, you adhere to the advice and the situation blows up far more than you anticipated.

When is it OK to listen to your girlfriends?

See, girls always say "I want what's best for you. I just want you to be happy." But, that statement can only be taken seriously based on the person, not the words. Sorry to be a cynical Sally, but not EVERYONE (male or female) wants what's best for you. That might be part of why they say what they say but it's not always the main motive. Some people are motivated by jealousy, their own pain, or a number of other things.

So recognize the motive for what it is and not what they say it is.

Your best girlfriends will mean well but some girls take things to extremes. Adhere to your personal experiences and what your gut tells you before you run with your girl's advice to ignore him for 3-4 days (come on, you know you've tried this before. Guys NEVER notice these silly kindgergarten games. Chances are you wasted your own time and energy and he didn't even bat an eyelash.)

In the end, all you should do is listen to your own head and heart. Don't take advice from so many different people that you can't hear your own thoughts. Trust what you feel and don't be skewed by what other people think, perceive, or believe because sometimes, it's just flat out wrong.

Love freely,
tY