Pixie Cuts and Bitches

This weekend as I roamed the aisles of Borders (ahh, what a refreshing activity), my friend and I stopped in the self-help section for kicks.

I once heard that any woman who has self-help books is crazy and you shold run in the opposite direction. Perhaps this is an exaggeration. Yet, as we perused the shelves of this section, there were books such as "Dating for Dummies" and "Flirtexting" sending women messages about how to date and find a happy ending. Funny, because the last time I checked such things were not skills one can acquire.

As we looked further, we saw a book entitled, "Why Men Love Bitches." Ironically enough, this book was written by a woman.

So, I turned to my friend of the opposite sex and said, "Men don't love bitches, do they?"
Obviously, he responded with a no.

I came to a few conclusions in Borders that day, one of which was that us women (and I am not excluded from this category by any means) worry about men entirely too much. We read books, we write books, and we see movies and believe the characters are speaking to us. Additionally, some of the stuff we are telling each other is not right. Ever had a girlfriend tell you to chop all of your hair off after a breakup? I mean, hey, I think short hair can be hot but at the end of the day, your emotions are still going to be there. And, perhaps unfortunately, your hair won't. Seeking self-fulfillment in external things is always in vain.

So, what's the solution? Maybe we should stop feeding into all of the insanity surrounding men and dating. Maybe we should find other things, more concrete and substantial things, that define us and matter to us.

I don't write this blog to grant epiphanies to people everyday or tell people how to live their lives. I am not a guru and I never will be. I write what I see and feel. And, to be perfectly honest, I write because it revives me and it's nice to have this as an outlet.

So, before you go Peter Pan on your hair or decide to trade in your niceness for bitchiness, remember no one has all of the answers. And, if you seek all of the answers, chances are you will be more clueless than you were before you even tried.

Love freely,
tY