Getting over the hump

When couples get tired/annoyed with one another, they have options. Break up, give each other some space, etc.

But, what about when single people get tired of being single?

There aren't really kiosks with rent-a-signficant others.

I would like to believe that being single is just as much a choice as being in a relationship. But, really breaking it down, deciding to be in a relationship is much more of a choice than being single. Sometimes, being single is the default. And, while it can be a great default, it's still a default.

If you want to meet the queen of singledom, meet the face behind this blog. It's been quite a few years and despite the complicated hookups/friendships along the way, I haven't been serious about being serious in a long time. Sometimes I've been bitter, sometimes I've been broken, sometimes I've had 143 other things going on in my life and literally did not have time for another person, sometimes I just haven't cared, and sometimes I've been afraid to admit I care. Either way, if you want intro to the single life 101, I'm your professor.

Nonetheless, shopping for cute skivvies today during Black Friday (because that's about all I could afford), I realized I missed having someone to show those cute skivvies to. There are days when I'm glad no one is hounding me, annoying me, knowing my moves and when I make them, and there are days when I miss sharing my life with someone else.

(^Take those two paragraphs and cherish them, folks. Because that's about as personal as it gets on free love.)

Nonetheless, I'm not saying any of this to wah wah complain about my life. My life's fine. I just don't think these sentiments are uncommon for anyone who is single. Let me let you in on a little secret: People who worship the single life are unhappy. People who worship their relationships probably have problems. Everyone who is human has those "the grass is greener on the other side" moments. People who denounce relationships are typically bitter and/or insecure and it took me about four years to figure that out. Sure, sometimes you need to be single to focus on other important things. And, well, sometimes you're just the bitter b word.

So, what's the solution to getting over the hump? Oh, I hate this solution because it's very reactive but it's all just a matter of time. The right thing, the good thing, the best thing is worth waiting for. Don't settle for a fraud. Don't settle for second best. Just wait. And, in the meantime, rock out to your favorite song in the mirror in your new lace skivvies.

Love freely,

tY