Sell out

I'm reading Restless Virgins, a book about a sex scandal at a New England prep school (non-fiction).

It's by Abigail Jones and Marissa Miley. If you're spending your summer days flipping through channels, pick it up. It's a good read.

Reading this book makes memories of high school prepubescent lust come flooding back into my mind.

Reading this book also confirms that it doesn't take long for young girls to realize that their bodies are their biggest weapon against rejection from the opposite sex. And, like any human being seeking acceptance and approval, these girls use that weapon to their fullest advantage.

There's no need to be preachy in this post. I have my fair share of high school, home-by-11:00pm, don't-let-your-mom-catch-us stories. But, reading this book not only brings me back to those high school moments but also makes me realize that it takes a long time to grow up out of the mentality and act of using bodies to get and keep attention.

Why? Because, if it ain't broke, don't fix it.

When we find out that our bodies (or things we can do...) can keep someone's attention and (falsely) keep their affection, it's hard to break from that mold. It's harder to bring just ourselves and our souls to the situation because it's a lot easier to hurt those parts of us. And, while it's easy for emotional and mental things to capture someone's attention, it's harder for those things to keep someone's attention.

It's all a learning process. Some of it's inevitable; we get older, learn from our mistakes, and bring more to the table as people. We learn that bodies are the bonus, not the necessity. Some of it requires conscious thought and breaking old (and arguably bad) habits.

Just some things to keep in mind so your old high school behavior isn't with you for the rest of your life. Didn't Barney tell you? You are special, you're the only one, you're the only one like you. The world is important just because you're here...ok, I should stop because that was just wrong.

Bottom line: Don't be a sell out. Bring yourself 100% and remember your body is only about 10% of who you are (if even that.)

Love freely,
tY