Flames

"The worst thing is holding on to someone who doesn't want to be held on to."

I don't necessarily love this quote (maybe because it ends in a preposition???) but it hits the point that I'm trying to make with this post.

A few days ago, my friend was telling me about a friend of hers who was considering breaking up with her boyfriend of two years. A main reason for her decision was that now, sometimes when she showers, she'll walk in the room after, drop her towel, and he won't even acknowledge her naked body. Won't even look up.

If you think this is shallow reasoning, I can understand. There are bigger issues that people face in relationships.

But, losing the spark is more than a significant enough reason to break up with a significant other. Why? Because people want to feel wanted. Yearning for that feeling is what makes the world go round (the relationship world at least.) Whether it's a one time hookup, or a two year relationship, we all enjoy feeling wanted. When the aforementioned female drops her towel and the person who should want her most in the world doesn't even acknowledge that, it's hurtful and it takes a blow at the person's ego.

When your heart stops racing when your person walks in the room, I would argue it's time to reevaluate. Of course, I don't know how married people do it, but that's a whole different ball game.

Aren't those inexplicable butterflies one of the things that distinguish romance from friendship? When the flame dies, what's left?

Love freely,
tY