Who said people in relationships can't be friends with members of the opposite sex?
Sigh. Nonsense.
Unfortunately, when someone in a relationship decides to befriend someone of the opposite sex, jealousy, insecurity, and other issues that put wear and tear on a relationship can arise. Why? Because strictly platonic male/female relationships are hard to come by. Possible? Yes. Difficult. YES.
No girl likes being the psychotic girlfriend. Being the psychotic girlfriend is never a conscious choice. Nonetheless, it happens. However, when you start questioning your guy's friendship with that chick down the hall, even though that friendship existed long before you trotted along, it doesn't typically reflect on your guy's infidelity. It usually reflects on your insecurities and distrust.
It's easy to get rattled up when your boy is spending nights talking to his not so ugly girl friend. Not only because there's the temptation factor, but also because it feels like your place as his girlFRIEND is not quite as important. But, the best thing to do is check yourself. If he yields to temptation, it becomes his guilt, not yours. But, if you can't trust him and can't believe in yourself, it's your guilt, not his. And most importantly, it's your problem, not his and definitely not a collective problem between the two of you. Work it out yourself, baby girl.
Be strong. Be confident. And, if you're that girl friend, be understanding and as always, play fair. Wrecking homes is for construction men, not lovely young ladies.
Love freely,
tY
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