99%

It's no secret--breaking up is hard to do. So, I kind of developed a theory.

This theory goes against a lot of the independence/female empowerment rah rah love yourself stance that I am such an advocate of. That sentence just ended with a preposition, oops.

Anyway, it's the 99% theory.

Getting over a break up, no matter how it ended, takes a significant amount of time and focused energy. Everyone has ways of doing it--some being more healthy than others--but everyone figures it out, eventually. I guess. I hope? The 99% theory proposes that you can get 99% over someone by yourself, all on your own doing, with your big girl (or boy) pants on. But, the added 1%, the thing that makes you completely know that the last effed up break up was meant to happen, is when the right person, the better person, comes in and makes you realize everything was meant to be.

Again, I think my own theory has some holes in it and I would really like to believe that people can get over something 100% by themselves. And, it's also not fair to put the next person in this silly situation where they're being compared to the last person and are hopefully exceeding the standards that the other person failed. But, hey, it's a theory--it's falsifiable as I learned in my quantitative methods class. :)

Breaking up is hard to do--and how much of it is up to you?

Love freely,
tY