Decisions, decisions.

People fall in love and they forget about themselves.

No, no, that's not an opinion. It's a fact.

Awhile ago, a friend and I were chatting about one of his would-have-been co-workers who switched from one office to another to work with his girlfriend.

Friend and I decided this was a very dumb idea.

When we fall in love, it's hard to not want to be around that special person all the time. And, when circumstances like school or work try to pull us apart, we can become blinded and want to take the easy road out, sometimes sacrificing our personal wishes, dreams, etc for the advancement of the one we love.

This type of selfless behavior is fine... when there's a shiny piece of jewelry wrapped around your left ring finger.

People in marriages have to make sacrifices. Sometimes it means moving across the country for the good of your family or maybe even for a spouse's career advancement. Things like that happen.

However, when you are young, even when you are young and perhaps seriously committed, it's my personal belief that you should still focus on self. If things with that special person are meant to be, they will be. But, in the long run, if you want to take a job offer in California while you're lovely person is in New York, isn't that a risk you have to be willing to take? Aren't you ultimately making yourself a better person so that YOUR person is with the best YOU that they can be with?

Be selfish so that years from now, you can be selfless and that can be OK.

Love freely,
tY