Numbers Don't Lie.

Alright, it's no secret. I'm black. Let's do this.

Let's start with a statistic: 42% of black women have never been married. Another statistic: 70% of professional black women are single. Check out more at: http://online.worldmag.com/2010/08/04/the-black-marriage-crisis/

This blog is a bit personal for me because, like most women, I want to get married and I'm not blind to these stats. In fact, I've had times in my life when they've consumed me and ruined my optimism.

The irony is that going to school and not being a complete loaf is supposed to help make you catch. Unfortunately, for black women, it seems to just make you a number. And, because of this, black women start to question their standards and substitute what's available for what they truly want.

Nonsense. Absolute nonsense.

Perhaps I'm getting on my angry black woman soap box, but just as I said in my last blog post, you have every right to ask for what you bring to the table. I read a book a few years ago called "Better Single Than Sorry" and I think that epitomizes this situation. Settling for something isn't always better than walking away with nothing.

Don't forget that compromise is important and actually quite pertinent. But, don't confuse compromise with giving in. Empty pockets suck...but pockets that weigh you down are even worse.

Love freely,
tY