Note: Laptop is dead as a door knob. I am blogging right now from the convenience of my wonderful desktop at home but posts might not be as consistent this week.
On to The Friday night.
How many weekend nights have you spent curled up next to your boyfriend or significant other or hookup doing absolutely nothing? You know, watching a movie or just talking. Not going out. Just think about it.
Now, how many weekend nights have you spent just chilling...alone?
More or less, I chose to spend my Friday night by myself with a Sex and the City DVD, Noodles and Company, and my journal. My sister and I laughed about it the next day, calling me a loser.
But, as I walked up the steps to my dorm last Friday, I saw a couple strolling hand in hand, probably preparing to do the same thing I did. Nothing. Except they were doing nothing...together.
Here's the thing. When couples spend nights together doing pretty mindless activities, we think it's cute. Because it is. Being able to spend pure downtime with another human being is quite a gift. But, when we spend downtime by ourselves, we don't think it's that cute. Actually, we think it's kind of pathetic as if we couldn't find someone else to spend time with or our plans just fell through.
Of course I don't agree with that notion and I would bet most people don't. No one wants to spend every night of every weekend by themselves. Therein lies a social problem. But choosing to spend a night by yourself, even electing to spend a night alone with a movie and some ice cream over going out with friends or hanging out with your boyfriend, is actually a bit healthy. Everyone needs a minute to hear their own thoughts and just enjoy being alone. The inability to do such a thing is actually when you have the problem.
So, next time you spend your Friday or Saturday night curled up with a good movie and some fattening food, remember the only thing you "lost" is a couple of dollars at Blockbuster.
Love freely,
tY
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