Loveghost continues...
Dating these days is tough. I’m surprised people even get together, no lie. There’s just a lot going on: timing, distance (refer to last entry), age, baggage (how many exes are you friends with??), and a whole bunch of other crap. That phase before two people actually become official is just a roller coaster of joy, nervousness, and anger. And if you’re like me, I tend to think more about the future than the present during this phase, well… that was my thinking until a friend of mine told me something that really touched me. She is currently in a situation where she’s “seeing” someone, but their future is iffy because that someone doesn’t want to be in a relationship yet because of yada yada yada reasons. So, naturally I tell her that I feel sorry for her situation, but she surprises me and says that she’s very happy. She’s happy because she really tries to enjoy the moments she has with this person. Sure, she could think about the future and where their relationship is going to be, but that just gives her unnecessary stress. Think about it this way, if there was a genie who granted you the power to see into the future of your relationship, would you do it? There are only two possibilities: either you stay together for the long-run or it ends. And while we like to think as optimistic individuals that most relationships last forever, we know that most relationships, especially at our age, end eventually. So you would tell that genie “no.” Because let’s say it actually lets you know that your relationship will end in 7 months, would you still pursue that person? I think not. So therefore, you have to enjoy those moments in the present. Savor and learn from those experiences, I know I will.
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