You Are What You Attract

There's a common expression: "You are what you eat."

While cruising up to beautiful Connecticut this past weekend and listening to the radio, I heard an expression that may be even more useful: "You are what you attract."

Men get a lot of shit for being pretty god awful human beings. Women, too, get some shit for being golddiggers among other things. But, I'm going to propose a new theory. Maybe the problem isn't the man or the woman. Maybe the problem...is you.

Alright, listen. Some people are just inherently bad people. Some people can't be cured and well, guess it's just a rainy life for them. And, sometimes, no matter how good we are, we will deal with our fair share of parasites. But, we can't always put the blame on other people, their lack of life skills, and their inevitable douchebag traits. Sometimes, we have to take a look at ourselves and wonder why these imbeciles keep flocking to us.

I like to think life is a stage. Everything that creates an overt image of you (ie what you say, do, and wear in the public sphere) elicits a certain audience. A retired Shakespearean scholar isn't going to sit down at a Lady Gaga concert (well, Gaga is pretty universal, maybe I'm wrong...but you get the point) Why? Because Gaga's performances, clothes, etc attract a certain group of fans.

How you present yourself, both on the exterior and on the interior, says a lot about the company you keep and the company you want to keep. It isn't even just about clothes or appearances. If you give off that vibe that you are giving life a big middle finger and you could care less about good things in life (define good as you will, I won't invoke my standards here), then why would you ever attract someone who actually cares about life and people? That would be a non sequitur, folks.

Like I said, some people just suck at life. But, those people won't matter if we don't suck at life and choose to only surround ourselves with awesomeness.

Love freely,
tY