Why do I always blog in the wee hours of the morning? I think I'm a vampire.
I've decided being single has its phases just like being in a relationship. And, they kind of mirror one another. The beginning of a relationship is new and everything is roses. When you return to being single, you're like "Whoa, this is what I was missing!?" :cue drunken makeouts and other sins:
As you move on in the relationship, you have some fights, things become routine, and you have to decide if you're either going to work to make this one better or phase it out of your life.
After a few months of debauchery being single, you hit a slump where you're over the Samantha Jones moments and you miss curling up in a ball next to someone. Now it's time to decide if you can truly devote yourself to being by yourself or if you are going to whine about it. Or, well, if you're just going to continue the debauchery which always works, too.
I guess what I'm saying is that no matter what situation you're in, it's not easy for any of us. Life has its way of spiky haired white boy style serving us (if you don't get the reference, you obviously don't know of my favorite movie of all time, You Got Served) and we have to roll with the punches and decide where our efforts should be focused.
Whatever you do, wherever stage you're in...either go big a la Theresa Guidice's hair or go home.
Love freely,
tY
Saturday, January 22, 2011
Thursday, January 20, 2011
Reunited and it feels so...?
Happy 2011, 20 days later.
Free Love has been on a hiatus for a few reasons. Allow me to explain.
1) I am taking the LSAT in 3ish weeks. It's a beast and does not allow me to play much.
2) I started this wonderful thing called Free Love almost two years ago and just as me and my love life have evolved, so has this blog. I've found that a lot comes from observing the world (ie these blog posts), but a lot more comes from just living so, sometimes, I'm just living. Those times are when I blog less frequently. But, Free Love is like my first child...like you let it grow up and you're more hands off but it's still your kid. My Tumblr is like the new child that needs attention and also, it's new so you like playing with that child more. Wait, maybe that's a really messed up way to look at parenting. Good thing I don't want kids.
But, do not fret, my pet. A brand new blog post, just for you.
So, there's really no way around this one. No witty way to begin this. My ex is coming to town.
Yeah, take a moment and let it simmer the way I had to when I got that text a few hours ago.
There are always some expectations as you prepare to see someone whom you once loved after a long absence. And, really, every reunion is unique depending on the circumstances of the breakup, how long it's been since you even said what's up to the person, etc. Fortunately, I'm not going in completely blind but it's still a weird situation.
And, that is where this list comes in.
Top Dos and Donts for a Reunion with the EX:
1) Look good. Everyone knows this one. But, really, I don't think the point should be "Yeah, I'm hot and you messed this up!" but really, "I'm still in good shape." Cause, really, if you believe in fate like moi, no one messed anything up and everything worked out for the best.
2) The subpoint to looking good...don't confuse good with sexpot. Boobs and booty out kind of scream desperate. And, by kind of, I mean really. High heels, though? Essential.
3) Stay in the present. No use in rehashing old mems, good or bad, because someone's feelings are going to get hurt.
4) Don't expect sex. No brainer.
5) Go somewhere/meet somewhere where there's a predetermined amount of time for the outing. Hanging out for too long (ie at someone's house)= el trouble. (I forgot how to say that in Spanish so I just added el to trouble. So much for my Spanish minor.)
6) Don't let other people get in your head. Everyone has their theories about exes-- "Never see them again!" "Aw, you guys should get back together." Nah, eff all of them and go do your thing.
7) Don't discuss current flings/sig others/etc. I get it. We're no longer together. But, we were and hearing about you banging someone else is never gonna be that cool. Then, I'll have to fake smile and pretend I'm cool with it when it's just plain weird and well, there goes my night.
8) To add on to #3, have something to say. You're not gonna talk about the past so have a present and future to discuss.
9) Understand that people change but the past doesn't. You may sit across from someone completely different from the person whom confused your heart with grapes at the winery and stomped all over it a few months or years ago. Hell, you may be a different person now. In fact, I hope you are. And, that's awesome. But, the past happened, that ish is real, and you aren't Cher so you can't turn back time.
10) Enjoy yourself. This is someone whom was once important to you and there's no reason why, even if you can't be friends, you can't remain cordial and enjoy one another's company.
Sooo...all of that advice was basically to myself but hey, maybe it'll help you out one day, too.
Wish me luck, beautiful people.
Love freely,
tY
Free Love has been on a hiatus for a few reasons. Allow me to explain.
1) I am taking the LSAT in 3ish weeks. It's a beast and does not allow me to play much.
2) I started this wonderful thing called Free Love almost two years ago and just as me and my love life have evolved, so has this blog. I've found that a lot comes from observing the world (ie these blog posts), but a lot more comes from just living so, sometimes, I'm just living. Those times are when I blog less frequently. But, Free Love is like my first child...like you let it grow up and you're more hands off but it's still your kid. My Tumblr is like the new child that needs attention and also, it's new so you like playing with that child more. Wait, maybe that's a really messed up way to look at parenting. Good thing I don't want kids.
But, do not fret, my pet. A brand new blog post, just for you.
So, there's really no way around this one. No witty way to begin this. My ex is coming to town.
Yeah, take a moment and let it simmer the way I had to when I got that text a few hours ago.
There are always some expectations as you prepare to see someone whom you once loved after a long absence. And, really, every reunion is unique depending on the circumstances of the breakup, how long it's been since you even said what's up to the person, etc. Fortunately, I'm not going in completely blind but it's still a weird situation.
And, that is where this list comes in.
Top Dos and Donts for a Reunion with the EX:
1) Look good. Everyone knows this one. But, really, I don't think the point should be "Yeah, I'm hot and you messed this up!" but really, "I'm still in good shape." Cause, really, if you believe in fate like moi, no one messed anything up and everything worked out for the best.
2) The subpoint to looking good...don't confuse good with sexpot. Boobs and booty out kind of scream desperate. And, by kind of, I mean really. High heels, though? Essential.
3) Stay in the present. No use in rehashing old mems, good or bad, because someone's feelings are going to get hurt.
4) Don't expect sex. No brainer.
5) Go somewhere/meet somewhere where there's a predetermined amount of time for the outing. Hanging out for too long (ie at someone's house)= el trouble. (I forgot how to say that in Spanish so I just added el to trouble. So much for my Spanish minor.)
6) Don't let other people get in your head. Everyone has their theories about exes-- "Never see them again!" "Aw, you guys should get back together." Nah, eff all of them and go do your thing.
7) Don't discuss current flings/sig others/etc. I get it. We're no longer together. But, we were and hearing about you banging someone else is never gonna be that cool. Then, I'll have to fake smile and pretend I'm cool with it when it's just plain weird and well, there goes my night.
8) To add on to #3, have something to say. You're not gonna talk about the past so have a present and future to discuss.
9) Understand that people change but the past doesn't. You may sit across from someone completely different from the person whom confused your heart with grapes at the winery and stomped all over it a few months or years ago. Hell, you may be a different person now. In fact, I hope you are. And, that's awesome. But, the past happened, that ish is real, and you aren't Cher so you can't turn back time.
10) Enjoy yourself. This is someone whom was once important to you and there's no reason why, even if you can't be friends, you can't remain cordial and enjoy one another's company.
Sooo...all of that advice was basically to myself but hey, maybe it'll help you out one day, too.
Wish me luck, beautiful people.
Love freely,
tY
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