Friend card

Have you ever told someone, "I don't like you in that way but we can be great friends?"

If so, give yourself a pow pow. You know, a smack in the face. A hit. For me.

We've all done it. For whatever reason, we have all told someone who was feeling us in that warm and fuzzy lovey sort of way that we weren't feeling them in the same way but we still thought they could be a great friend to us. And, most likely, we have all been told that same thing.

Telling someone who likes you that you would love to be their friend is like spitting on them and then saying "Oh, sorry! Let me wipe that off for you." You still spit on them. You're just trying to fix it as best as possible.

It isn't that a friendship is impossible or out of reach. But, at that moment, that person who likes you doesn't want to be handed the friend card. Chances are they will chuck it before you can even get your next sentence out.

Solution? Be easy about letting them down and then later (whether thats a day, a month, or a year later), mention the friend thing. "You know, I'd really like it if we could remain friends." Comes off as more genuine that way as opposed to just crushing them and trying to fix it right then and there.

Love freely,
tY