Successful marriages with golden anniversaries. How do people do them? At age 20, this seems far-fetched at best and impossible at worst. Maybe it's because young minds (and sometimes hearts) move a mile a minute. Human beings become disillusioned. They become lazy. They become tired. And, they give up.
The ironic thing about love is that it comes naturally. We don't control it as much as we may try or as much as we think we do. But, once it comes, once it blesses us with its presence, it's up to us to keep it. Some of love stays naturally and some of it requires work. But, hard work pays off.
Love freely,
tY
Friday, March 26, 2010
Monday, March 22, 2010
Goin to the chapel...
Where have I been?????
New goal: POST!
I recently met a woman who got married at age 21 and 11 years later, she's still married. To say I was surprised was an understaement.
I have to admit I used to be against getting married young and I also have to admit that was only because of the societal stigmas surrounding young marriages--they are inexperienced, they rushed love, etc. But, after meeting this super duper woman whose marriage has survived far longer than people who know each other for decades, I changed my mind a bit.
Getting married young has to have its challenges...but doesn't marriage in general have its challenges? I can easily say I don't see myself marrying young as I am 20 years old with zero prospects. Nonetheless, I've stripped myself of that negative sentiment that marrying young is dumb or ill-fated. Love, lifelong love, comes to everyone at different times. Accept and respect.
Love freely,
tY
New goal: POST!
I recently met a woman who got married at age 21 and 11 years later, she's still married. To say I was surprised was an understaement.
I have to admit I used to be against getting married young and I also have to admit that was only because of the societal stigmas surrounding young marriages--they are inexperienced, they rushed love, etc. But, after meeting this super duper woman whose marriage has survived far longer than people who know each other for decades, I changed my mind a bit.
Getting married young has to have its challenges...but doesn't marriage in general have its challenges? I can easily say I don't see myself marrying young as I am 20 years old with zero prospects. Nonetheless, I've stripped myself of that negative sentiment that marrying young is dumb or ill-fated. Love, lifelong love, comes to everyone at different times. Accept and respect.
Love freely,
tY
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
Unnatural
We like to believe that love comes naturally. We like to believe that when we see couples holding hands or kissing, it's effortless and their love is instinctual.
But, love doesn't always come naturally. And, love certainly isn't always easy. Maybe attraction is natural. But, love requires attention. It requires care. It requires therapy. Sometimes, we have to work at love because without that work, it dies. Sometimes, it's a homicide killed by the insensitivity of another who walks on the scene and seduces our significant other. Sometimes, it's a patricide, as love has been our king and we have worshipped it, only to have it fall from grace tragically. Sometimes, it is a suicide and we kill it through selfish actions. And, sometimes, most times, without work, it simply withers away.
Love freely,
tY
But, love doesn't always come naturally. And, love certainly isn't always easy. Maybe attraction is natural. But, love requires attention. It requires care. It requires therapy. Sometimes, we have to work at love because without that work, it dies. Sometimes, it's a homicide killed by the insensitivity of another who walks on the scene and seduces our significant other. Sometimes, it's a patricide, as love has been our king and we have worshipped it, only to have it fall from grace tragically. Sometimes, it is a suicide and we kill it through selfish actions. And, sometimes, most times, without work, it simply withers away.
Love freely,
tY
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